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I’m a competitive person, even when I don’t mention it or throw a fit, I compete with everyone in my mind. This has presented itself most fiercely in the pursuit of beating updates in Candy Crush (I have friends that wait for updates to play because they are that far ahead).
Where my competitiveness also presents itself is with my son. He’s NOT competitive, at all. Most of the time, he’s rainbows and unicorns. He doesn’t have a fight in him, or as his grandpa says, have a fire in him.
Grandpa signed him up for soccer and I went to his practice. He was running and “in the game”. That is a huge improvement from the last time he was on a team. I asked grandpa what he thought, and her said he’s trying to hold his tongue and give him time to get used to the sport again. All I heard was he’s ok, but not trying his best.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying he has to be THE best, just try HIS best. And I know his best. Running is at Olympic level when he’s with friends or doing what he wants to do.
But I was very proud of myself, I said nothing to him. I asked him if he enjoyed playing, what was his favorite part, and kept the conversation positive. That’s leaps and bounds for me. I normally try to holster my anger, biting my lip, if I can contain myself from getting on his case.
You know he will be ok. He’s young and maybe athletics aren’t his thing.
What’s ok for you this week? What are you letting go of?
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My husband is more the competitive one of the two of us, but I have to say he really is good wight he girls as far as sports and even soccer is concerned. So, I guess we are thankfully on the same page not to push them too hard when they are this young, but sounds like you are doing good with it too and totally proud of you for this
My fear is that I push him too hard that he doesn't want to do any of it. It's so hard for me to sit on the side. I don't attend practices and stick to games because of it.
Girl you know I am a competitive person .. it's in my blood. I'm not sure what I would do if Reagan wasn't but I already know that she is because she likes to make everything a competition — even who can finish their dinner first {between Brian and Reagan!]
Crazy.
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Have a feeling Ms B will be a lot more aggressive when it comes to sports than her older brother. I look forward to it!
This is a great question. I find myself letting go of so many things over and over that I can't keep up! I think I can be pretty competitive myself at times, but I've worked on that because most things are just not a competition. In sitting here thinking, I've got nothing that I can remember that I'm letting go of at the moment.
Oh, I wish. Some things I actively compete in, and others I actively withdraw… like being the best housekeeper… it's not going to happen, so I don't try! LOL! (my house isn't a mess, but it's not perfect either).
Good job for keeping it positive, I can't imagine how hard that is.
I try to stick to games. It's much easier than practices when they are supposed to be working to get better. Thankfully, grandpa is willing to practice with him on other days.
I'm competitive too, but I'm not very competitive when it comes to wanting my son to win in sports. My son is only five and played soccer for the first time this fall. A lot of the parents were really competitive, yelling at the kids to turn the ball, pay attention, and try to score. I was just happy that he was having fun most of the time. I never played any type of organized sports, so most of the time my competitiveness is from playing board games or video games. My problem is more so wanting him to show everyone how smart he is, that's something that I need to work on.
Yes, D's "having fun" was standing in the corner and watching planes pass by when he was 5! Part of it was also, why am I wasting the time and money to watch him stare in the sky and wondering am I supposed to be ok with this since I don't want to harm his development. Ya know?
He sounds like my five year old. My five year old is always twirling around on the field and not paying attention to the ball. I completely understand not wanting to hurt his development.
We have a pretty competitive family and it was hard this past season to see my son playing on a team that only won ONE game. It killed me to go to these games and watch them lose and see the looks of defeat on their faces and it wasn't from lack of trying….just bad coaching. I had to make myself smile and ask my son after every game if he had fun. If he said yes, I told myself that's all that mattered. But I will be looking to get him on a different team next season!
Yes, I only had one losing season in all of the seasons of sports that I played. It was hard for me, but D took wins and losses in strides. I'm not even sure he was upset that they lost. We'll see. I have to stick to games only because I feel myself getting angry during practices. I need NOT have a heart attack!